I am a survivor of ex-gay therapy. Some call it conversion therapy, reparative therapy or just plan counseling, but the goals are the same: To eliminate or reduce homosexual desires and actions. Needless to say, it didn’t work.
I am a recovering fundamental Baptist. If you don’t know what a fundamental Baptist is, I can explain: We thought the Southern Baptists were liberal.
I was a Baptist pastor married to a woman living the midwest raising our three children. Yes, I spent over 15 years in ministry before exiting that line of work to focus completely on becoming fixing myself so I could save my marriage and live as a straight man.
I always knew I was gay, but being gay wasn’t an option in the world I lived in so I kept trying to make it go away through church, prayer, scripture, and the pursuit of godliness because everyone told me that being gay was a sin and probably just about the worst sin anyone could commit.
Today I am happily married to my husband of over a decade. I share my colorful story with audiences everywhere to encourage them to live each day as their authentic, powerful and beautiful self. A life that isn’t motivated by fear. It is my goal to encourage people to LIVE. I hope to build bridges of understanding between what may seem to be opposing communities such as the LGBTQ community and religion.