Entries by Joel

15 LGBTQ Relationship Tips From 15 Years of Joel and David

Today, February 23, David and I are celebrating fifteen years together. In honor of our anniversary, we’ve put together a list of 15 essential relationship tips that help keep us strong: Everything you do will either draw you closer together or push you farther apart. Choose wisely. If it’s broken, either fix it or throw […]

Reflections on Transgender Day of Visibility 2020

I’ll never forget the first trans person I knowingly met. (I say knowingly because we always have trans people around us, we just aren’t always aware of them.) I had just come out of the closet and was cautiously venturing out into the gay world. Bob, the man I was dating at the time, invited […]


A Halloween Tale Stranger Than Fiction

My only memory of trick-or-treating was when I was 7 years old. I wore a hand-me-down cowboy costume with a very worn, leather holster that barely fit me, but I didn’t mind because I was going to fill my big plastic pumpkin with candy. I didn’t know it would be the last time I would […]